Fortunately, I've had a positive experience in my software engineering career. I've worked primarily in the aerospace and finance industries. When I was first starting out, I asked tons of questions, and I found people I connected with on a personal level.
These were the people who guided me both in improving my technical skills and in my career overall. As the only woman on some teams, I did not always feel included initially. So I dove into the work and focused on excellence and meeting milestones.
With every successful project we completed, I built my team's trust and confidence in my abilities. I'm an introspective person, so one challenge for me has been speaking up and being heard in a room full of people who are passionate about technology.
I read an article where former U.S. Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O'Connor described how she changed her speech pattern to ensure that she kept her colleagues' attention and accentuated her points.
So sometimes during an active meeting I may change the way I deliver an opinion. For example, I might speak more slowly or intentionally. I think about the one or two points that are most important to get across and only speak to those.